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I have resorted to drinking after my father's death. Please help me.

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Published At May 16, 2018
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Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I am a 25-year-old guy. I am working in a private company although my dream is to work in the government sector. I have that caliber which I know and I believe I can, but the problem with me is nowadays, I take everything for granted. I lost my father three years back. Till then, everything was fine as my bonding with him was like a friend. I used to discuss a lot of things with him just like a friend. After him, I have to take care of the responsibility of my family which was not like that actually. I have spent a big amount of his savings. Now even I know the financial stage of my family. If I do not get a government job, it will not be possible to live life the way I want to. I am not happy at all with my private-sector job. A year back, I had a breakup with my longtime girlfriend. The problem now is although I know the outcome of everything, I am not working towards my goal. Instead, I am a regular drinker. I really want to stop drinking. I keep myself motivated that I will not drink today but somehow I do end up drinking. It all started after my father's death. I do not want to make it an excuse for my drinking habit but still, I do not know how to leave this habit. I am losing so much due to these things. I feel like I am behaving like a numb person even after knowing everything. I live alone as well. What should I do?

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I have gone through your problem and understand your concern. It is clear that after the death of your father, you were not able to handle the pressure of responsibility and started drinking alcohol and spending excessively. As you are regularly drinking for the last three years and now want to quit, that is good. Consulting a psychiatrist in person will be very helpful and he will ask for some investigation like liver function tests, USG abdomen, etc, and treat you accordingly. Management of alcohol use is very important and it depends upon many things including total daily intake, duration, last intake, the status of the liver, etc. Sometimes what happens is that due to stress and family pressure, etc. the person is not able to take the right step forward and may take a wrong path like in your case. As of now, you are motivated. So, a consultation with a psychiatrist as soon as possible is important to manage alcohol-related problems and other psychological problems if he detects any. Similarly continue to work to get a job in the government sector, as it is difficult due to lack of enough vacancies. So, keep studying. Do regular exercise and take adequate sleep.

Thank you.

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Dr. Ramchandra Lamba
Dr. Ramchandra Lamba

Psychiatry

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