Q. I am not able to have physical relationship with my fiance. Please help.

Answered by
Dr. Arooj Najmussaqib
and medically reviewed by Dr. Divya Banu M

Hello doctor,

Lately, I have been aroused and sexually attracted to my fiance in my head, but when we start to fool around, I feel like I do not want him to touch me. Like he is a family member and not my fiance. We have also only fooled around maybe 10 times in the past year. We have been together for two years.

Dr. Arooj Najmussaqib

Psychologist/ Counsellor


Welcome to icliniq.com.

Your query shows that you are experiencing mixed kind of emotions and need some help. The reported problem is different than the one you are going through. There is more to it which needs attention. The relationship is yes, a problem at present. That may be because of what you had been dealing with. It happens when we struggle with something, it takes time to come back in a normal routine.

Also, you need to discuss openly with your partner if you have any questions in your mind about his life. Without them being cleared, your mind would be preoccupied.

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