Q. I want to pursue my education after having second baby. Is it fine?

Answered by
Dr. Suresh Kumar G D
and medically reviewed by Dr. Divya Banu M
Published on Nov 04, 2019

Hi doctor,

I am 27 years old, with two daughters. My life seems like sucked up, no income as I decided to go to University last year, as I could not finish 6 years ago. Feeling like a loser, hating myself as after giving birth to my second daughter (she is 7 months now) have become very fat and ugly. Was it a right time going back to university with my small child? Will my husband still love me? Will I be beautiful again? Will I succeed?

Dr. Suresh Kumar G D

Child Health Paediatrics Psychiatry
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Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

You are motivated and want to work towards a better life but looks like you are troubled by self-doubts and confidence appears to be low at present. You have already taken the important first step in acknowledging the problem and trying to get some advice. You have the drive to succeed in your endeavours. It is natural to feel stressed trying to balance family life with university commitments on a tight budget. Anyone in your position will feel the same.

Try to get some support to help you look after your children. Can your husband or grandparents help? Do not feel guilty or think it is wrong about going back to University. You are doing it for better long-term prospects for yourself and your family. Just try to get some practical support. Always spend some quality time with children and have fun daily. Try to exercise atleast 20 minutes daily. It will help you to regain your physical fitness and also improve your confidence and emotional wellbeing. Keep having regular talks, discussion with your husband about your feelings and aspirations. Also talk to a trusted friend and family member who can understand your journey and mentor you towards a fulfilling life. Take care.

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