How do I overcome the emotional difficulties in my marriage life?

Hi doctor,

We are newly married, and my sexual life lasts up to five days. We had daily one-time sex. After that, he stayed away from me for up to six months. I do not know what happened. The reason he said that I have unwanted hair under my chin. That is why I am not getting in the mood.

Why is he saying that? He used to smoke and drink and not show any affection toward me. Instead, he felt like a hero. He says he is handsome, a hero to himself, and loves money a lot. He is not doing the job. He always asks for money. Please suggest what I have to do. He would tell me reasons for everything to work, and while he was asking for money, I felt financially abusive. He will discriminate against me because of my color and beauty.

My question is that how long has he stayed without sex with me?

Why is he behaving like that?

Thank you.

Hi doctor,

Thank you for your answer.

I stayed one month at my mother-in-law's home. For up to 10 days, he is good with me. Then after he suddenly changed and started using vulgar words for me. I do not know the reason why?

After one month, I came over here to my parent's home. I asked, what about the job?

He wants to sustain himself easily and wants free money. So I thought that this was the main reason. So he put me away because I always ask about my future job.

For up to two months, we did not talk. He used to say before marriage about finance and moving to another place. Before marriage, he agreed I would do a job, and we would stay in another place. After two months, he said we would stay outside. Before two months, he did not say anything to me. Again after two months, he is showing affection again. He is saying I cannot live without you.

My question is that one-time sex in a day good? I do not know anything. He loves his friends. He used to travel to different places with friends. If he has money, he will do anything like that. That is why my father-in-law is not giving me any money. So, how long do I have to save the relationship?He likes parties. He felt like a hero. Why?

Please suggest me.

If money, party, and friends are not with him, he feels depressed and does not want to eat. Why?

Thank you.

Hi doctor,

Thank you for your answer.

I have to save my relationship. I am trying to help him, but he does not understand. If he does a job, maybe change will be there. He talks all the time actively. He used to sing songs. He will stay up until night time for long hours. I want to change him into a mature man.

My mother-in-law used talk therapy and said good words to him. The initial days of marriage life are bad. But slightly, he is changing himself. He thinks of me nowadays, behaves politely, and does not use bad language. I observed for almost four months. I am happy about that. But I doubt that maybe he is acting. But he still asks me for money. I want to settle him down. He should be a responsible guy. I need him, literally. But I have fewer chances to deal with him. My parents and his parents are planning to move us to another place to change him and spend time with me. Is there any chance to treat him well?

I will plan everything for him. My father-in-law used to say always to him. We do not have more money, so we need to worry about life. I observed this thing from my father-in-law. My husband always thinks about money. He does not have fear, respect, or anything else. My doubt is, can be able to differentiate between feelings and needs? He is used to escaping from the situation by telling me I am getting a headache and fever-like silly things. Even if it was not a big task, he used to avoid it. Is there any chance of changing him like a man? After my marriage, his parents are not allowed to give him money. So he is staying at home only right now. He is not going anywhere. But one of his friends is coming to him. That friend is not good. He gave him another girl's mobile number. But my husband differentiates easily between what is wrong and what is right. He is intelligent as well, but why is he doing that?

Doctor, please give me some good suggestions.

Sometimes he behaves like a mature man, and sometimes childish. His feelings and emotions change frequently, and he watches comedy shows more.

Thank you.