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How to get rid of negative thoughts and focus on good?


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Dr. Nithila. A

Published At September 25, 2019
Reviewed AtApril 22, 2024

Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I am a 26-year-old male. I observed I have always inclined toward the negative side of things. Due to recent events, like heartbreak, and the age-related illness of my parents, feeling extremely negative, exhausted, and feeling difficulty breathing and loss of appetite are some problems I often face. I am suggested these are panic attacks triggered due to anxiety. Sometimes it is too much. I feel exhausted and want to lie down even though I have not done any tedious tasks. And now that I recall, I have had these symptoms for over a decade, but since last year they are noticeable, and the symptoms are louder than ever. Some months back, I had a breakup, and two months later, my mother was admitted to the hospital due to some illness. She is better now, but during that time, I had a constant burning-like sensation in the back of my head. Sleeping became impossible, and I was scared to sleep alone, I stopped using the phone two hours before sleep and meditated starting from five minutes a day to 15 minutes in one stretch. The burning sensation always stayed for 10 to 12 days, and then it became occasional, and later it was gone. I believe meditation helped, and accepting that these are caused by excessive overthinking and most of my thoughts are not reality, has helped me cope. But I wish it was not that complicated. I wish I were not so vulnerable to stressful situations, and my body did not react so vividly in tense situations. I am a lot better, except it will be even better if I could learn to focus on the good and be a doer instead of feeling lost and helpless in tough times.


Welcome to icliniq.com.

You are reporting some depressive and anxiety symptoms probably related to stressful life events. It is very positive that you have started meditation and it has helped in making things better for you. Meditation helps manage stress. You can also try yoga if feasible. Learn deep breathing techniques. As you realized, stress can cause physical and emotional problems when it is not adequately managed. It can happen to anybody going through a stressful period. When you develop better-coping mechanisms, you will be able to manage stress more effectively. Try to exercise regularly. It lifts your mood and lowers your anxiety. Try to have a good supportive network of trusted family members and friends. If you continue to feel stressed and have emotional difficulties, you can consider counseling. If depression and anxiety symptoms are persistent and affecting your life, medicines can be considered.

Thank you.

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