I have asked my husband for a divorce. I am not happy or in love with him. For eight years, he was into gambling and hardly contributed to our household. He has now stopped gambling for around three months since he found out that I was talking with another man. I have been trying to convince myself to love my husband again since he has changed, but I could not. He is now trying to make me feel guilty and is threatening me. We have a son aged 7. Am I a bad person by seeking divorce in order to find my inner peace and happiness? Should I stay with my husband out of guilt and pity just because he has stopped gambling and remembered that he has a family?
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Thank you for your reply. The feeling of guilt is due to that he has quit gambling for the last three months and now helps financially, treating me nice and yet I cannot feel in love with him. The wounds are too deep. I feel pity for him that if I divorce him, he will be sad and destroyed. He understands that I seriously want a divorce. He says things for me to feel sorry for him and when these words are not working, he begins threatening me. I understand he is hurt now, but will he eventually calm down and accept what I want? Am I selfish? Should I just stay with him and be miserable for the rest of my life for him not to suffer? We also have a son aged 7.
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