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During the lockdown, she is also very lazy for the past two years, with no focus or attention on the activities she is doing. She likes to dance but not much interest in that and feels shy in learning or dance in front of others. Even she feels scared to do yoga or exercise in front of me. Now she is studying the first year in higher secondary. Till the ninth standard, she kept her grade well. When she started tenth, she did not maintain her grade and health issues like diarrhea, stomach pain, vomiting, etc. (done endoscopy reflux and colonoscopy, results were normal). Yes, they gave more than five assignments and tests conducted from the last three months. She did not complete even one assignment fully. Incomplete and submitted. For an assignment that needs to be submitted in one week, she took more than a month.
I am working in a private company as a medical coder. She does not socialize well. She has not more than three friends, but only one friend is close to her. She is staying alone. So many times, I asked why you do not chat with your friends and mingle with your classmates. She says her friends are not understanding, talks to her only if they need something from her. Encourage her to do regular exercise, spend time with your daughter, be friendly with her, and encourage her to make more friends. Take her to any social gatherings, give her healthy foods, promote late night sleep, practice good sleep hygiene, and avoid mobile at least one hour before bedtime. There is no psychiatric illness in my family. No issues in her sleep and appetite, but last months, she goes to bed by midnight 1 am due to her assignment work. I hope she interacts with me in the right way because she loves me a lot, and she knows, My struggles in bringing her up. Yes. Mostly when I say I will discontinue your studies if you did not submit your assignments. Every month, she has bled for six to seven days.
I did not get her IQ level tested. But from her responses to some basic questions or ways of doing her daily activities, she has a poor IQ and low memory. Her activities were normal as a child. She is not an adamant or aggressive kid. As a kid, she was a quick learner and understandable. Sorry, I have updated my weight; she is 51 kg. No such incidents she reported about bullying in her school, apart from regular fights within friends.
I already told her to walk daily for at least 30 minutes, but that one day she is doing, and another day she will neglect. If I asked to do, she would say, "the evening I will do mom," then in the evening as "surely tomorrow will do" as she will skip. The other day she will say she is having leg pain. After five to six days later, she walked but not consistently. Please give the treatment to cure well, and also I am ready to change from my side for her.
Thank you.