I feel bad for my dominant behavior with my husband. Please advise.

Hi doctor,

This is not a medical issue, but I have not found any articles that could help me on. I have a very strong sexual and romantic attraction for my partner, and I consider our relationship to be healthy. I also have a very strong kink for being insulted and degraded in bed. The thing is my partner refuses to say anything that shows dominance, let alone insult, because he is too respectful. I love that he is respectful of me, but I resort to thinking thoughts of myself to try to make myself orgasm and even that is not nearly as effective as I think him saying it would. What I am asking for is advice on how to make him feel more comfortable doing this in bed. He enjoys being on top so he is not really the submissive type to begin with. In case this is helpful, here is the information on our relationship outside sex. He is a quiet and passive one. I am the loud and assertive one. Despite this, I take care in making sure that he gives me his thoughts and feelings on things in general and never try to pressure him into anything. However, he has a tendency to do what he thinks would make me happy because he feels obligated except in bed, else I would not be here. For example, he watched a movie with me that he did not like, because he felt he had to. A slightly bigger example is that I expressed interest in taking couple's Latin dance class once we were on our own together and he hates dancing, but says he wants to do it for me, even though I told him I only want to do it if he really wants to. The one thing I say I probably dominate him in is that if I do not think he eats enough or is on his phone too much during lunch, I nag him, sometimes take the phone away and even more seldom spoon feed him. He is very laid back though, and never expressed strong distaste for my being on his case about this. This is a small aspect of our relationship though.