Sexual fantasy also called an erotic fantasy, is an imaginary feeling of arousing sexual feelings, an incident, or a quick fabrication to enhance sexual pleasure and obtain orgasm. It can be based on experience and may impact future sexual activities, lack of which may cause sexual dysfunction. Common fantasies include violent sex, oral sex, group sex, homosexuality, etc.
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Can I have sexual activity even if I had a heart surgery?
Query: Hello doctor, I am an 80-year-old man who has had heart surgery, replaced the valve, and repaired the aortic aneurysm. But now I am doing well health wise. I had heart surgery four years back for valve replacement and aortic root repair. Can I take a deep kiss while getting involved in sexual relat... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. I can understand your concern. Yes, you can kiss, and if your blood pressure is normal, you can even have soft sex. I hope this helps. Thank you. Read Full »
I am a 40-year-old heterosexual male and have started developing sexual attraction toward transsexual women. Is it normal? Kindly help.
Query: Hello doctor, I am a 40-year-old guy and have been married for the past 15 years. I consider myself heterosexual and never had any thoughts or fantasies about guys or men. A few years ago, I ran across a transsexual video and was very much fascinated and aroused by what I saw. I started having fanta... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. The first thing I like to tell you is that, from the medical perspective, this is normal, but if we look from the cultural and religious angle, it has a different meaning for everyone. Visiting a transexual bar or engaging in such activity does not make you homosexu... Read Full »
I have a fantasy of watching someone having sex with my wife and masturbating myself. Please advice.
Query: Hello doctor, I have a fantasy to watch closely when someone has sex with my wife. I reached out to many guys on different hookup sites and paid them to explain how they could have sex with my wife so that I could imagine all scenes and masturbate myself. However, I do not know how to fulfill this f... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. Thank you for taking help from a psychiatrist. You may have voyeurism. If your wife has no problem having sex with another guy in front of you, then it is fine to have this type of fantasy. But it may lead you to trouble in your marriage life in the future. So it is be... Read Full »
Why do I masturbate with my thighs and not my hands. Kindly help.
Query: Hello doctor, I am a young male adult, and I masturbate without using my hands. Instead, I sit down and squeeze my penis with my thighs. Kindly suggest me a solution to stop this. Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. I can understand your concern. You can have sexual-related issues in the future, like erectile dysfunction, and I suggest you change to hand penis masturbation. It will be difficult for a few months but no other options. You can do it yourself three times a week, or you c... Read Full »
I am satisfied with my marriage but had sex with my crush. Why did this happen to me?
Query: Hi doctor,I did a love marriage seven years ago and have a daughter aged three and a half months. I am very happy and satisfied with my life. But two years back, I messaged my crush and we had sex. I traveled back to my place, stayed alone, and I forgot to delete the chats. Why did this happen to me... Read Full »
Answer: Hi,Welcome to icliniq.com.You are satisfied with your life, yet you may be bored with your husband. It would help if you had a spark or variation to make marriage life enjoyable. Go for a vacation or do things together like cooking, playing sports, movie dates, hiking, or trekking. Go for variations... Read Full »
We are exploring sex dynamics. I want to stop it. How should I approach my wife?
Query: Hi doctor, I am struggling to tell my wife that I want to stop the sex dynamic we have been exploring for years. It is an odd and complicated issue, but I honestly do not know where else to turn. It is a very personal problem, and I understand it is confusing for some to understand. I appreciate an ... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. I can understand your concern; it can be excess sexual desire can be hormonal or psychological. It is not you alone; there are few happenings like this. The only way to get out of the situation you go through can be couple counseling. You need to talk to a psychologist an... Read Full »
How can I stop thinking about my imaginary life?
Query: Hi doctor, I am a 19 year old girl. I have a very stupid habit that has caused a lot of problem for me, I have met a lot of psychologists, but I could never talk about my exact problem with them. It seems to be a ridiculous problem, but I ask your sincere help. When I was 15 years old, I watched a ... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. Thanks for sharing your problem with me. I can understand your problem. You have given a complete elaborated history regarding your problem. You are having repetitive thoughts and are obsessed in your virtual fantasy world. Your problem comes under obsessive compulsive di... Read Full »
Are sexual fantasies common in young men and women?
Query: Hello doctor, I am a young woman, and I have a question concerning sexual fantasies. I have always been sexually open, and I was never ashamed of any of my fantasies during self-pleasure. Even when I had a pretty weird fantasy like cheating or having sex with an older man, I was never concerned ab... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. Sexual fantasies are common in young men and women. There is nothing unusual about it. Some are open about it, and others are not so open. Fantasies are random thoughts in nature. When you had random fantasies about older men, thought about your mother was also random. ... Read Full »
I get attracted to women wearing glasses. Is it an obsession?
Query: Hi doctor, I am attracted to women with glasses. In fact, I am obsessed about it. In all my life, I have masturbated just seeing young and middle aged women wearing glasses and now it has become a kind of compulsion. Even my wife wears glasses and I tell her to put them while having sex and I ejacul... Read Full »
Dr. Sreenivasan Vazhoor Ramsingh
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. Different men have different fantasies, both sexual and nonsexual. I would have to say that the fact you have an attraction towards women with glasses in itself does not make you abnormal. However, the moment that you start losing control over thoughts like these, then th... Read Full »
How can I stop or reduce the frequency of masturbation?
Query: Hi doctor, I am 24 years old male. I have a habit of masturbation for about nine years. Now, it became a habit in me. I have started doing it compulsively for about five to six years. I masturbate as frequently as thrice a day every day. Now, my head is programmed to wank at any time when I am alon... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. I can understand your concern and masturbation is a safe habit. It does not result in weakness or physical fatigue. But excessive masturbation results in significant loss of time that is spent on sports or in studies. This progressively results in poor health and poor p... Read Full »