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Published At May 29, 2022
Reviewed AtJanuary 11, 2024

Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

I am struggling to tell my wife that I want to stop the sex dynamic we have been exploring for years. It is an odd and complicated issue, but I honestly do not know where else to turn. It is a very personal problem, and I understand it is confusing for some to understand. I appreciate an open mind with any answers. My wife and I have been married for eight years and together for almost 11 years. During our second year together, we both discussed and agreed on a specific type of relationship dynamic we would like to explore. We agreed that my wife would be allowed to pursue sexual relationships with other men with my full awareness and consent while I remained faithful. We have continued and enjoyed this relationship for many years with no issue. But now that we are getting older and our child is growing up and becoming more aware of things, I do not feel comfortable continuing this dynamic. I want her to stop sleeping with other men and go back to an entirely monogamous marriage, but I do not know how to approach this with her. She seems to be okay with continuing things as they have been going, and I can not imagine her suddenly wanting to stop. Plus, I am worried that if I say I want it to stop and she disagrees, it could cause severe strain in our marriage. What do you think I should do?

Thanks.

Answered by Dr. Raveendran S R

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I can understand your concern; it can be excess sexual desire can be hormonal or psychological. It is not you alone; there are few happenings like this. The only way to get out of the situation you go through can be couple counseling. You need to talk to a psychologist and demand your partner be with you. As you said, it will not be good for your kid. You need to make a decision soon as possible.

Regards.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Raveendran S R
Dr. Raveendran S R

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