Can erection problems cause multiple failed sexual attempts?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am a married woman. We have tried to have intercourse thrice, but the first time my husband said he got some friction burn, the second time he mentioned experiencing pain while intercourse, and the third time we could not do it because of erection issues. I tried to talk to him but he says he is not aware of any issue. Also, I am always the one to initiate intercourse. He never seems very interested. We have not been able to sustain it for more than 10 to 20 seconds. Can you please guide me on what is to be done?

Kindly help.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

Thank you for your query. I understand your concern. I have a few questions for you. Is he diabetic or hypertensive? Does he have a tight foreskin? Any surgeries in the past? Are the erections normal? Any stress?

Please revert back with answers.

Answer 2

Hello,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

The most common reason for ED is psychogenic which is stress, anxiety, shyness, depression, and fear of disappointment. If he does have a tight foreskin it can make sex painful for the person. However, I cannot diagnose this until I examine him or see a photo of the genitalia. If it is the case, he will require a procedure for its correction. My advice to you would be to make the situation as comfortable for him as possible. Instead of trying to engage in intercourse, maybe just work your way up via foreplay. This might relax him, make him more comfortable might improve things for your intimacy. Another option would be to go for joint counseling sessions where both of you could address the situation together.

I hope this has helped yu. Thank you.