I am gay but want to be straight. Please guide me.

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I completely understand that you feel concerned about your altered sexual preferences. It is generally due to past negative experiences in life as you mentioned about the early sexual interactions with the same gender partners. Since your first early interactions were with the same gender, it usually becomes a habit or a sexual preference/ orientation. Are you currently engaged in homosexual activities? It becomes difficult to alter your sexual preference if you are engaged in sexual activities with the same sex. Since you are highly motivated to make changes in your sexual preferences, it is the first step towards betterment. Intentionally involve yourself in activities that would help you find interest in the opposite gender. For example, fun activities, spending time with girls, friendships, imaginary female partners, and intentionally imagining an attractive female partner in sexual fantasies or activities. Intentionally avoid sexual interaction with the same gender so that your sexual needs find satisfaction with the opposite gender. You may feel disturbed as you do it. Learn to deal with your emotions and state of mind. Suggest positive affirmations for you at the time of disturbance such as I am doing it because I want a straight man's life, I choose to be sexually attracted towards girls, and I like to be a heterosexual (opposite sex) partner. These are instances from what you have already mentioned. Find more positive affirmations for you which will help you become what you want. Make these affirmations a routine in your self-talk. Practicing it daily will gradually make it automatic in your mind, and your brain will start working the way you want it to. I hope this is helpful to you.

Thank you.