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Borderline Personality Disorder

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Dr. Soni Ravi Mukundkumar
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Published on Sep 29, 2013 and last reviewed on Nov 14, 2022   -  3 min read


Persons with borderline personality disorder are very dramatic, impulsive, and emotionally unstable. They stand on the border between neurosis and psychosis.

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness where the person has difficulty handling their emotions appropriate to social standards. Even minor situations can trigger major reactions. They have unstable mood, behavior, object relations, and self-image. They stand on the border between neurosis and psychosis. A person with neurotic illness will have an insight into his illness. He understands that he has some illness and that he should seek medical help, while a person with psychotic illness does not have any insight into his illness. He has lost touch with reality and usually, they do not seek medical help.

Over the years, the different names that have been given to this disorder are:


  1. Excessive efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. They fear abandonment and will do anything to avoid it.
  2. Unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation. In their view, a person is either all good or all bad.
  3. Identity confusion. Marked and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
  4. Impulsivity in areas that are potentially self-damaging. For example, money spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating.
  5. Repeated suicidal behavior, gestures, threats, and self-mutilating behavior such as cutting
  6. Unstable moods and extreme reactions.
  7. Feeling of emptiness that is longstanding.
  8. Intense anger and difficulty controlling anger. There is frequent displays of temper, constant anger, and recurrent physical fights.
  9. Abrupt and short-term stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

Behavior and Traits

These persons have an extremely unstable psychic organization. They quickly become attached to somebody and easily make friends. They have a problem with their identity and cannot understand what life means to them. So, they are dependent on others and need emotional support. When they become dependent on others, their expectations about them go very high and when that person tries to move away from them, they have an emotional breakout. They try to convince that person to live with them and can do whatever they want.

On one occasion they may say that you are a very nice person and identifies with you but when there is a conflict, they devaluate you in front of others. They are very impulsive as given in the symptoms.

They give repeated suicidal threats, make suicidal gestures and try to gain attention. They often feel that their life is empty. One moment, they may be happy but another moment they are sad and suicidal. Sometimes, they may become paranoid whenever there is an emotional breakout.

Some psychiatrists call this personality 'black and white phenomenon' because of the sudden changes and fluctuations in mood, emotions, behavior and they are usually at an extreme level. Functionally, patients with borderline personality disorder distort their relationships by considering each person to be either all good or all bad.

Also, they use a defense called as splitting. Meaning, persons towards whom the patient's feelings are undecided are divided into good and bad. For example, in an inpatient setting, a patient may idealize some staff members and uniformly disparage others. This defensive behavior can be highly disruptive in a hospital ward and can ultimately provoke the staff to turn against the patient. When staff members anticipate the process, discuss it at staff meetings, and gently confront the patient with the fact that no one is all good or all bad, the phenomenon of splitting can be dealt with effectively.


Genetics seems to play a great role in causing borderline personalities. A person with a close family member who has this disorder is much likely to have it too.

Also, this disorder is linked to a history of abuse, neglect or separation early in life. In young adulthood, some situations, people and scenarios trigger the development of this personality in them.


  • Medication is generally not used unless specific symptoms such as depression and mood swings need to be treated. In that case, antidepressants, mood stabilizers, and antipsychotics are used.
  • Counselling for the patient as well as friends, caregivers, and family members are necessary so that there is awareness in their circle about why they behave the way they do, what to expect and accordingly support them when necessary.

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Frequently Asked Questions


What Is the Cause of Borderline Personality Disorder?

The various causes of borderline personality disorder are:
- Poor parenting.
- Lack of self-love.
- Poor self-esteem.
- Traumatic childhood.
- History of borderline personality disorder in the family.


What Are the Triggers for Borderline Personality Disorder?

The various triggers for a borderline personality disorder are:
- Criticism.
- Temporary or permanent separation from their loved ones.
- Loneliness.
- Lack of love and sex.
- Poor interpersonal relationship.
- Lack of validation.


How Can You Identify if the Person Is Having Borderline Personality Disorder?

It is difficult to identify a person with a borderline personality disorder. The diagnosis requires help from highly qualified professionals. Mere judging of the disorder by evidencing a few characters might not be appropriate and might result in misdiagnosis of the condition.


What Is the Hardest Personality Disorder to Treat?

The hardest personality disorder to treat is a narcissistic personality disorder. This is due to the fact that it is very difficult for the psychologist to make the patient understand their fault. Also, the unlimited number of lies expressed by these patients would make it difficult for the psychotherapist to diagnose and treat them.


How Is a BPD Person Like?

A borderline personality disorder person will look normal and lovable. They might behave in a kind manner to others as they always long for love. The abnormal behaviors expressed by them can only be identified in a long-term relationship with them. They do not express any abnormal changes in physical appearance.


It Is Easy to Calm Someone With BPD?

No, it is not easy to calm someone with BPD. An attempt to calm a person with BPD might require continuous efforts in a kind manner. The attempt might become successful and unsuccessful, depending on the mood of the individual. If the patient achieves reassurance from their loved ones, then it is easier to calm these patients.


Do Borderlines Get Worse With Age?

The borderline disorder does not get worse with age. In fact, it is known to decrease in severity as the person matures. The worst effects of borderline patients are experienced during their teenage and earlier part of the '20s. If it is a female patient, then the severity is more during the menopausal period.


Do Borderline People Lack Empathy?

No, borderline people do not lack empathy. Their extreme sense of importance towards their own feelings makes them appear self-centered. This self-centered attitude might make them express empathyless behavior.


Can You Live a Normal Life With Borderline Personality Disorder?

Yes, it is possible to live a normal life with a borderline personality disorder. When the patient's emotional roller coaster reaches the peak, it is difficult to manage borderline patients' negative outcomes. It is highly unpredictable to understand their mood status, and so there are higher possibilities for normal life to get disrupted from them.


What Is the Best Medication for Borderline Personality Disorder?

Medications are given for the borderline patients to stabilize the mood changes. The most recommended medications are listed below:
- Valproate.
- Lithium carbonate.
- Carbamazepine.
- Lamotrigine.


What Should I Do if I Have Borderline Personality Disorder?

The first thing you have to do when you have borderline personality disorder is to accept the condition. Proper psychotherapy treatment is necessary for improvement in the mental health of borderline patients. Dialectical behavioral therapy is the most recommended method for these patients.


How Serious Is Borderline Personality Disorder?

A borderline personality disorder is a serious condition compared to other conditions because patients engage in self-harm behavior. The extreme anger expressed by the patients might provide unsafe surroundings both for the individual and the others. It is necessary to get help from a psychologist as soon as possible.


What Happens if BPD Is Left Untreated?

If the borderline personality disorder is left untreated, it might result in severe negative consequences. The patient might end up doing several self-harm events and also suicide. It might also lead to disharmony in the family. You can get help from your doctor to treat borderline personality disorder.

Last reviewed at:
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