Emotional and Mental Health

How Would You Know if You Need Marriage Counseling?

Written by
Dr. Shivani Misri Sadhoo
and medically reviewed by iCliniq medical review team.

Published on Feb 13, 2017 and last reviewed on Nov 29, 2018   -  2 min read



During a troubled phase of marital life, it is important that couples deliberately and dedicatedly give attention and work towards improving their relationship as they face turbulence in their love and romance. Also, they should not hesitate to take expert help.

How Would You Know if You Need Marriage Counseling?

Do we need to meet a marriage counselor? Will my spouse agree on this? These are the common questions that couples usually struggle with when they pass through a troubled phase of marital life. Generally, a common answer people give to themselves is, let us give some time and when the existing living conditions improve, so will our marriage. But, challenging situations never end in life, and they just change their identity from time to time. Hence, it is important that couples deliberately and dedicatedly give attention and work towards improving their relationship if they face turbulence in their love and romance.

Some of the effective tips for rejuvenating marital life are like giving more time to your spouse, spending quality time together, having a daily dialogue about your feelings for each other and your lives together rather than discussing your activities that day.

However, if things do not work out, then couples should not be hesitant to take expert help immediately. I suggest some of the signs that could tell couples that they should meet a marriage counselor.

5 Clear Signs You Need Marriage Counseling

1. Negative Communication

This happens whenever a couple tries to talk to improve their relationship. The communication between couples become negative, and they end up arguing, accusing and hurting each other. Hence, their communication gets limited to small talks related to kids, home chores, EMI's, etc.

2. Spouse Becomes a Roommate

When couples become more like roommates than a spouse, it indicates that they may need counseling. It does not mean that the couple is unwilling to stay together and they are in trouble. It means that there is a lack of communication, conversation, and intimacy or any other elements that the couple feel are important, and they believe they just co-exist. This may be an indication that a skilled therapist can help them sort out what is missing and how to get it back.

3. Extramarital Affair

When one or both the partners are having extramarital affairs, but they both decide not to end their marriage and come back to their spouse.

4. Living Together for Children

If a couple feel they have to stay together for the sake of children, it may help them if they go for marriage therapy.

5. Considers Separation as a Solution

When things between couples have turned sour and they frequently refer separation as the only solution left, then it is time that they immediately seek marital counseling.

Do you have any problems in marital life? If so, please consult a marriage counseling specialist online --> https://www.icliniq.com/ask-a-doctor-online/psychologist-counsellor/marriage-counseling

Last reviewed at:
29 Nov 2018  -  2 min read


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