How can I cope with the depression due to a failed relationship?

Question

Hello doctor,

I met a boy five years ago, and since that day, I cannot forget him. We were in a relationship for a while, but it did not work out. I feel like I am knowingly ruining my life for him. I cannot forget him, and I am living my life in sorrow. I have a history of experiencing negative impacts on my life, career, and relationships due to my own choices and actions. From that day onwards, I have been repeatedly experiencing depression. I am suffering so much. Please help me.

Answer 1

Hello,

I appreciate that you have chosen icliniq.com for your medical needs.

I am here to give you the best care possible. I am sorry to hear that despite your repeated efforts, you are unable to forget your first crush. During the teenage years, love can be intense, which could be a reason why it is difficult for you to let go of your feelings for this person. However, since the guy openly communicated to you that you are ruining your career and life, I feel this is a clear indication that the feelings are one-sided and cannot be expected to reach their destination. In my opinion, rather than trying to forget, engage yourself in one activity or another, leaving little time to dwell on this matter. This will help you in a more precise manner compared to your attempt to forget about things.

I hope this helps you. If you have further questions or need additional guidance, feel free to contact me.

Thank you.