Relationship stress is draining me – how do I handle it?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am 22 years old and love a well-settled boy three years older than me. I am in a depression. My mother does not want me to stay in my current location because the boy I love is also staying in the same city. And she always taunts me for my work and always tries to break my relationship. I do not know what to do now.

Please help.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

Thank you for taking help from a psychiatrist.

I can understand your situation and your problem. It is common in our culture. Caste and religion are bigger issues in marriages. You are too young to make decisions about your life. You need to convince your parents about your boyfriend. If he is well settled, then talk about his good side to your parents. If your boyfriend's parents agree to both of your relationships, then ask them to meet with your parents. Your parents are concerned about your life, so you need to prove that you have chosen a good life partner. You can get help from your family members who can talk with your parents. But you must be ready to follow his caste rules and regulations. I would suggest you be practical and get enough details about his caste. There are a lot of issues related to food, customs, and rituals after marriage. Marriage is not between two people; it is between two families. Think about it.

I hope that you get your answer.

Please let me know if you need any help.

Thank you.