Does the penis penetration in the vagina hurt?

Hi doctor,

I have had a sexual experience in the past where my partner and I had sex for a very short time, less than five seconds. I was not really in pain, just an uncomfortable feeling. I was also very nervous, anxious, and totally unexcited. There was also no pain or burning sensation at all after intercourse. When I met my current boyfriend a little while later, and we had sex for the first time, I had an almost unbearable pain when penetrating. After intercourse, I also had a burning sensation at the bottom and felt pain in my lower abdomen. I remember three months after our first time I was still in a lot of pain at the time of penetration. Is there a possibility that my first partner has not penetrated at all, given that I was not in deep pain? At the time, I had no idea what was happening as I was not sexually active at all and had never masturbated before. Please advise.

Hello doctor,

Thanks for your response. I do not have infections. I do have dryness. Definitely during the first time, as I was inexperienced, very afraid, and nervous. It was also not really an act of love, more a mistake. What is important for me to know is if there is any possibility that the first guy did not penetrate at all, neither partially (only the head). As I did not experience any kind of pain after intercourse. I only felt some pain during the act. He also finished in a blink of an eye within five seconds. So I just want to understand what happened the first time. The little pain I felt was caused by what exactly? Is it due to the stretching of the hymen? Or is that possible only during penetration?

I felt a very big difference in pain when I made love to my current boyfriend, and there was one month gap between the two acts. It was extremely painful during the intercourse and also afterward. Despite the fact, we were enjoying each other before, and he was pleasing me, the act of doing it was still so incredibly painful.

Hello doctor,

Thank you. For me, it is just important to know that the first guy did not penetrate at all. That is what matters to me today. The stretching of the vaginal wall could have caused light pain afterward? Is it not? Because I felt nothing at all. As if nothing ever happened. I cannot ask him, and I do not know him. I just noticed him finishing within five seconds. If he would have penetrated, even a little bit, he would have continued until the end, and I would have felt that pain of entering. So there would have been a minimum opening while I was very stiff and nervous. I thought I could have even suffered from vaginismus at that moment. I am sorry for this detailing, but it is really important for me to understand from a doctor's perspective, medical view, and valid with scientific facts. Certainly, in my case, I never had any experience before, and on that first night, it was very awkward, with no foreplay or any other physical contact like kissing or touching.

Hello doctor,

Thank you. So even little penetration, even only tip would have caused enough pain to remember, or pain afterward?

Hello doctor,

Thanks for the reply.

Because as you mentioned, "mild pain was due to stretching of the vaginal wall, a slight stretching of the hymen. This would mean he was already penetrating, and no reason for him to stop." I did not stop him from feeling pain. He stopped when he ejaculated. So for a woman, who has vaginismus, nothing will pass. Or if she has a normal opening, will it happen? Is it not? If there is anything else you can tell me to kill that doubt I have, it would be great.

Hello doctor,

Thanks again.

1. So, during vaginismus, he will not be able to reach the hymen, correct?

2. Regarding your remark, "mild pain was due to stretching of the vaginal wall, a slight stretching of hymen", can only occur when there is a normal opening of the vagina? Correct?

3. If he could enter with the head and reach the hymen or the wall, he would continue unless I would have stopped him over the pain. Or is there anything else that could have blocked him from entering for full penetration? (Assuming, he reaches that point, he would enter completely).

Hello doctor,

Thank you.

Yes, to which question exactly? Could you please explain a little bit? I am trying to understand this as it is very important to me.

Hello doctor,

Thank you for the detailed response.

I have one last question, please. I do need your expertise to understand my first experience. I have talked about this with my boyfriend, and we are still arguing about the penetration despite all your feedback. I need to convince him that during my first experience, there has not been any penetration at all. Today I realize this because I have been reading online a lot, and I have given it a lot of thought. I keep telling him that even with a partial penetration, I would have had so much pain as I had with him, and if he entered only with the head, why would he have stopped there? It was not an act of love, there was no touch, no kiss, no foreplay, and no time for arousal. I was very nervous, anxious, and afraid. I did not have any pain after the act. I only felt discomfort during the act as I was never sexually active before, not even with myself. The guy finished within five seconds with partial penetration. Especially for a virgin girl who was very anxious at that time, it should have caused a minimum of pain. I felt a huge difference when I had sex with him for the first time, the pain was incomparable and unforgettable. A sharp, intense pain was felt after three months of making love to him. Please advise as detailed as possible. I need your medical advice on this matter to clarify this once and for all. It has been so heavy on me. I appreciate all your help.

Hello doctor,

No, I am arguing with my second boyfriend about my first experience. He is my husband-to-be.

Hello doctor,

I never gave it a lot of thought until we started talking about my first experience. My first time happened at least five years ago, and it happened with a friend of my cousin whom I never saw again. We just did it to have an experience. Today I am with the guy I love for over five years, and we never spoke about this. I was so embarrassed, it was a dumb act and a mistake. Recently, we were talking about it openly, and I started thinking and searching online. I started realizing there was a big chance that he did not penetrate at all, because of all the reasons I gave before. So it is an important detail for my husband to know if there is any chance that he was the first to penetrate. It would change a lot in our relationship. So this is why I have been asking for all these details. How big is the chance that the guy with the first experience could penetrate partially, fully, or not at all from a medical point of view, taking all my conditions into account? So please, if you could just take some time for me to answer the queries I previously asked?