It is quite natural to feel lonely at some point or the other. But, extreme loneliness is bad for your health. There are many ways to overcome loneliness. In this article, I would be discussing the same.
The following are various ways to overcome loneliness:
People start feeling lonely when they begin to think that they have no one by their side and that no one loves them. First of all, all these negative thoughts are leading one to feel lonely. Be positive, and always turn every negative situation into a positive one. If any negative thinking comes to your mind, tell your mind that you will think about it later. Procrastinate those thoughts. And soon, you will fill your mind with positive thoughts and forget about those things that are bothering you. When you feel positive, every negative situation turns out into a positive one.
It is often said that "An empty mind is a devil's workshop," which is absolutely true. When you have nothing to do, your mind starts having unnecessary thoughts. Instead, keep yourself engaged and busy so that you do not feel negative and lonely. Build a hobby for yourself. Start sketching or learn to play a new instrument if you love music. Some individuals love to write or read books. You can read books to gain some knowledge or information or to bust your stress. If you like fiction, you can also read various types of fiction novels. It will help you overcome the loneliness that you are feeling within you.
Learn various ways to enjoy life. Life is beautiful. Right from observing nature to listening to the beautiful sounds of birds, it acts as a stress buster. Whenever you have no one to talk to or are feeling very bored and lonely, switch on the television and watch your favorite show that is going on. Watching comedy films or shows have a very positive impact on one's mental health.
If you feel close to a family member or a school friend or the person you are in a relationship with, you can always share your feelings with at least one person you trust. You will feel light, and it will help you overcome the feeling of loneliness. During the lockdown, because of the COVID-19 pandemic, many individuals who are especially staying alone feel extreme loneliness. There are various national helplines to help such individuals. Please do not ignore your mental health. It is as important as your physical health.
Sometimes, when you feel too burdened with negative thoughts and lonely and have no one to share your feelings with, you can always pen down your feelings on paper or maintain a personal diary. You will feel very light as if you have shared your feelings with someone. You can always go in for professional guidance from a certified psychologist who will help you overcome the extreme feelings of loneliness and depression that you are going through. Some people have a very bad misconception that individuals only visit a psychologist if they are mad. This is absolutely not true. Everyone goes through a bad phase in life, and some might need professional mentors to help them get out of it.
If dancing makes you feel happy, go for it! There are many videos available online on various social media sites that teach you various forms of dance that will make your body release "endorphins," which are the feel-good hormones that will help you overcome the feeling of loneliness. You should always do things that make you feel happy. Some individuals love to learn different styles or hairstyles or personal grooming styles. You can learn different styles and practice it on yourself or on others. You can even start your own blog and help others learn those new techniques. It will give you a sense of satisfaction and keep yourself occupied. Thus, depleting the negative thoughts that are going on in your mind.
Praying gives a different sense of satisfaction. Even if no one is by your side, God is always there with you and will never leave your side. Leave all your worries and problems to God and believe that better days are about to come. Trust him. He will work miracles and wonders and eradicate the feeling of loneliness and depression that is within you. It does not matter to which religion you belong to. You can always read the holy book of your religion every day. It will teach you how to live your life.
We all are human beings. No one is perfect. If someone has hurt you or let you down, learn to practice the art of forgiveness for your inner peace. It will make you feel light and eradicate the feeling of negativeness and hatred that is within you. If you expect to be forgiven for being imperfect, you need to forgive your neighbors first. Life is all about forgiving and forgetting about the negative things that have occurred in the past and moving on. The more you let your past haunt you, the more it will destroy your coming future. Hence, never keep grudges. You will then lead a happy and successful life.
Keep smiling, and always be happy. Each individual is like a candle full of light. Share that light with others. No one lights a candle and then hides it under a bowl. Instead, the light is shared with everyone. Always be positive. The light in you reflects the aura that you share with others. I hope that this article was quite helpful to overcome the feeling of loneliness and depression that you are going through.
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04 Aug 2020 - 3 min read
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