Why do I feel unworthy and rely on others to find happiness?

Question

Hello doctor,

I always feel unworthy, not enough to be happy, in need of someone to make me happy, always want to be surrounded by people, sad, crying over a casual thing. I don't know what hurts me, but it hurts a lot. I want to feel happy and free. Kindly help.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I can understand your concern.

Based on the description, you may have major depressive disorder. There is non-pharmacological management for depression, I suggest you follow the below guidelines:

Exercise daily for 30 to 45 minutes like at least going for a walk. It can help you uplift your mood.
Meditate daily for 20 minutes, just sit in one place in a comfortable position, and try to concentrate on your normal breathing. Do not stop or force yourself to stop your thoughts, just let it be.
Consume healthy home-cooked foods, and avoid junk foods.
Drink enough water.
Spend quality time with friends and family daily or connect with them through video calls if you are living away from your family.
Spend time on creative hobbies like reading good books, writing journals, painting, drawing, and learning new skills or language or musical instruments.
Get enough seven to eight hours of sleep daily.
Avoid tobacco, alcohol, or any substance abuse.
Live your life, do not just spend it.
Be bold and confident.
If you still have symptoms that persist after following the advice for four to six weeks, then you need to start medications for a short duration.
Get the following blood investigation done.
- CBC (complete blood count)
- Thyroid profile
- RBS (random blood sugar)
- ECG (Electrocardiogram)
- Vitamin D3
- Vitamin B12

I hope this information will help you.

Thank you.