I do not feel anything during sex. Is it concerning?

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern.

You are saying you recently got married, you were a virgin before, and now, during intercourse, you only feel something on the outside, but inside feels numb. That is actually a very common concern in early married life.

It can be caused by normal vaginal anatomy (the internal vagina is less sensitive), anxiety or stress with first-time sex, or sometimes vaginal dryness leading to reduced sensation.

The inside of the vagina has fewer nerve endings compared to the external part (clitoris, vulva area), so many women do not get much sensation from penetration itself. What you are describing does not mean that something is wrong with you physically. You have a normal early sexual adjustment issue.

To know the condition, you can get tested if you have pain or notice some discharge or other symptoms. If it persists, a simple pelvic exam by a gynecologist can rule out any structural issue.

A few other factors that can causes this may include:

• A lack of arousal or lubrication.

• Vaginismus (if tightness or pain is also present).

• Rarely nerve-related problem (but unlikely at your age and history).

I suggest you do the following:

• Focus more on foreplay and clitoral stimulation, not just penetration.

• Use lubricants if vaginal dryness is present.

• Do not rush sex; give time to your body.

• In many cases, sensation improves as comfort and relaxation increase.

• If you still feel completely numb inside even after some months, then a gynecologist check is worth doing.

A few other things that can help you are as follows:

• Avoid stress.

• Communicate openly with the partner.

• Use enough foreplay.

• Maintain good hydration and vaginal health.

Kindly follow up if you continue to feel nothing at all even after two to three months of regular attempts, or if you develop pain or other complaints, please follow up with a gynecologist for a proper exam. Do share any new symptoms with me as well.

I hope this helps you.

Thank you.