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Why am I having difficulty to cope after separation from my girlfriend?

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Why am I having difficulty to cope after separation from my girlfriend?

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Dr. Nidhi Jain

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Published At May 10, 2018
Reviewed AtDecember 18, 2023

Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I am a 28 year old man. My girlfriend left me last month and I am going through severe heart pains and anxiety. My heart pounds and beats very loudly. I cannot concentrate on anything. I am having this constant urge to call her and I am not able to control myself. Due to my constant calling, she threatened me to change her number. But, still I feel like I should call her. I feel as if my hands and legs pulling me to pick the telephone and call her. I am becoming like mad. She said I have turned psycho and she cannot trust my mental condition. I forced her to be with me and she said she hates me and threatened me. I was not like this before, rejection turned me into a psycho. We used to talk daily on phone and I was really addicted to her. Now, she informed me that she is getting married. I am going through disbelief and lot of pain. I feel as if I am useless. I feel anger. I feel guilt. I feel why did this happen with my life? I cannot sleep properly. I am currently at home after my MBA and will be joining my job in some days, but I do not feel motivated. Please help.

Answered by Dr. Nidhi Jain

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

It is a kind of adjustment disorder. After the breakup you are not able to accept it and having difficulty in adjusting. It is a common problem. You need to take a medicine; it will help you in dealing with this situation. I suggest you take tablet Pari CR (Paroxetine 12.5 mg and Clonazepam 0.5 mg) one tablet at night for 14 days. Along with that, you need to make some changes in your life. Try to make a time table of your day. Keep yourself busy in any of your hobby. Try not to think or call her. Join new job and make new targets of your life. Make new friends or girlfriend. Make frequent contact to your old friends, relatives and family members. I think it is not impossible for you to start a new life. Give a second chance to your life. You can read positive inspirational quotes. All the very best. Have a bright future. Try to follow my suggestions and take medication for 14 days. It will definitely help you. Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Nidhi Jain
Dr. Nidhi Jain

Psychiatry

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