My mother is so clueless about what she is doing. Why?

Q. My mother is so clueless about what she is doing. Why?

Answered by
Dr. Nidhi Jain
and medically reviewed by iCliniq medical review team.
This is a premium question & answer published on Apr 01, 2016 and last reviewed on: Jul 26, 2023

Hi doctor,

My mother is 50 years old. Sometimes, she is so clueless about how to talk, what to talk and when to talk. As a result she always gets hatred from the people around her. She fights with everyone and always complains about each and everything happening. We used to think all these where hormonal problems, but it is getting worse day by day. She always feels that she is unloved. She is extremely possessive about people and she does not let my father socialize with anyone. If she does not like a person she does not let us interact with that person. She never tries to understand people and what they tell whether it is right or wrong. She is extremely selfish, stubborn and half the time she is grumpy. Is it any physiological problem? Do we need to take her to a psychiatrist? Please suggest us.



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Kindly answer me few questions. Has it started suddenly or gradually. How was she a year back? Was she completely normal or had some behavioral problems? For last one year, is she performing her duty like job or kitchen work? Is she caring and responsible in her family now? If deteriorating, then how much? Does she remain fearful, muttering behavior, wondering tendency, crying spells, ideas of hopelessness or thoughts of suicide? Is she having increase or decrease interaction with others?

Hi doctor,

It started gradually. She was not completely normal. She is performing her duty but always complains about it. She is not caring, it has been deteriorating slowly. She has crying spells and ideas of hopelessness. Appetite and sleep are less. She is having decreased interaction and decreased talk also. Please help.



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Most probably it is depression. But, I cannot assure you without seeing and talking to the patient. I can suggest antidepressant medication in low dose. It is very safe. Can hike the dose according to response. It will start showing effect after 7 days. Take tablet Nexito (Escitalopram) 10 mg in the morning. Tablet Clonazepam 0.5 mg, one tablet at night for 7 days and then half tablet at night for 7 days. Thank you.

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