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How to get my husband out of his guilt?

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Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

My husband recently watched a strip show. It affected him a lot. After asking a lot of questions, he revealed that he could not come out of it. He is always straying on other women, and he is thinking of going back and booking a prostitute. Also, he is worried that he could not come out of it. He is fantasizing them while having sex with me. He is feeling guilty and wants to stop thinking like this. Please kindly advise what should I do to get it out of him.

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnui

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

He has developed the guilt post watching the show. As you are aware that he went to watch a strip show, I do not think there is any need for guilt. Watching strip show is like watching an adult movie which most of the men watch. Only you can help him to come out of that guilt.

  1. First of all, explain to him that there is nothing wrong in watching a strip show or even if he imagines that show during sex. That thinking will go in some time. Try to spend more time in foreplay, and this will help him in forgetting that show.
  2. If even after that the guilt persists, then there is a need to consult a psychiatrist.
  3. Intrusive thoughts could be the part of anxiety. Treatment of anxiety by relaxation exercises and distraction will help in coming out of guilt.

For further information consult a sexologist online --> https://www.icliniq.com/ask-a-doctor-online/sexologist

I hope this has helped you.

Thank you.

Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

Thank you for the reply.

Also, he increased watching other women. Is that a normal behavior?

Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnui

Hello,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

Sometimes, imagining other women is fine, and I do not think that you will have problems with that. But, watching other women in real is not acceptable. In my opinion, his desire will decrease with time because he is feeling guilty for his behavior. With time he will become normal. Talk to him about this matter and explain to him that he has not committed a crime.

For further doubts consult a sexologist online --> https://www.icliniq.com/ask-a-doctor-online/sexologist

Answered byDr. Seikhoo Bishnui

Medically reviewed byiCliniq medical review team

Published At February 2, 2017
Reviewed AtJuly 8, 2024

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