Struggling to express feelings to someone I love. Advice?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am in love with my relative. We both have each other in someplace in our mind and I know it. She is a high achiever in her career, and I work hard to achieve stuff and good at studies but not as high as her. I faced real kind of depression earlier and often get it. So, I find happiness in everything. What I find difficult is to commit to her in some way as I see she may get a better person who will be supportive to her achievement. I do not underestimate myself, but there is a dilemma which is hurting me in my mind. Please advice.

Answer 1

Hello,

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You are very considerate that you want the best for your relative even at the cost of your love. Your cousin should be lucky that you have her best interests in your mind. However, if she reciprocates your feelings, you better go ahead and commit yourself to the relationship. If both of you love each other, you can develop a supportive and robust bond.

Always remember that academics, career, money, etc., are not the primary factors in a relationship. Of course, they are essential, but a successful marriage needs personal compatibility and care for each other. Do activities to improve your confidence. Try regular exercise, yoga, and have an open talk with a trusted family member or friend about your decision.