Hi doctor,
First of all, thank you for giving some nice feedback to my sister. However, day by day, her emotions are getting elevated. Her reports are normal. We met a gynecologist, who told her that it is very essential to control the thought system, otherwise, she would need to consult a psychologist regarding hormones.
When she gets high on emotions, she absolutely cries and sits in a room with thoughts about relationships. but one thing I have observed is that she is either thinking about him as a poor guy who has missed so many emotions of his life (when she did not reply to his series of calls and messages as he had done more than 250 messages in the past after the loss of baby asking only when will you come) and or as a person who is just letting the time go away.
Seriously she is in big trauma right now. As we all were caught up in a bad situation regarding mom’s health, all of us including our sister absolutely gave all our attention to mom and missed connecting with him. Day by day, my sister has mood swings and she is not able to take a clear decision about her relationship. Both my dad and his father-in-law are short-tempered. however, his sister makes a comparison between him and herself and says he is sometimes just like her. His messages looks like either he is making a fool of himself or just a guy who does not care about her.
Whatever it is, no one is getting a valid answer. All are making assumptions. However, my aunt wanted to ask you, when should we meet him. I think if we plan to meet him and he positively gives a green signal, then I would like to ask him to make a direct communication to you even in front of us. Or a small try.
What matters with sister, she gets caught up with memories, and each day she thinks about lots of incidents from the past, she reminds herself about those incidents and then smiles. Primarily she sometimes, doubting on his motives. However, before marriage, he skeptically avoided discussion about his family. He was more discussing himself and after marriage, he is just saying whatever it is, it is as per his family.
She is now blaming us, as we are not doing anything for her. When I say we are following a certain doctor, she is just hiding her emotions. her emotions are troubling her too much.
She is tired of everything. Everywhere she sees advice and thoughts but she is reaching nowhere. Yes, she is not taking a firm decision, like not sending a notice or visiting his home and asking questions straight in his face. In the last meeting, she was just silent listening to everything and saying nothing. And her attitude makes her reach positively and with respect. in her in-law's home, she found there was no respect shown to her or her family or her life.
Now there is absolutely no one to listen to her thoughts including him. And she is reckless with her lifestyle, she just wants him. However, she does not know how and when. Everyone says time is going on and you are still there standing alone. And somewhere she believes that he is having the same step as her, standing with the past.
What do you think about initiating communication with him regarding meeting him with his family? Actually, now she is "out of patience". I am jobless and unmarried, so am having worries. She tries to talk to me but is unable to understand. Dad has his pension work going on so he is having some restlessness sometimes. And about her, she is just thinking about the baby and her hormones are doing their work. She is saying me to do something either to call or meet him regarding her health or simply get divorced. And when I ask what will happen after divorce will you be able to stop your feelings? She has no answer.