What can be done to cure mental trauma given by colleague?

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The first thing that you have to fix in your mind is you have done nothing wrong in that abuse episode, it is a matter of shame for that person who had done it and to those who are making fun of this. Be confident and set in your mind that you will never get disheartened, say to your own mind that you have fought very well with the circumstances and done your best to overcome that. Suicide can never be a solution to anything. Do people stop gossiping after you? They will keep talking, no matter or anyone else .one more thing, rule out other features of depression. If present consultant a psychiatrist. For the current situation try to talk with them and ask them if the same event had happened with someone to their relative or close one, will they keep talking like this? Do regular yoga and meditation. Take a healthy diet, proper sleep. Try to involve yourself in other activities and be happy. Thank you.

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What hints you picked from a colleague that they know about your past, they might be your false assumptions. One more fact I want to tell is childhood sexual abuse is not uncommon, one out of five children face it, but most child or people do not seek help. And keep that thought and feelings up to them, feel like they have done it and feel themselves as the culprit. In your case you are saying what will happen if family comes to know about your past, first thing is how will they come to know? Second, even if somehow family or children come to know, the answer is nothing because you have done nothing wrong. It was just an accident and that past is gone, move ahead in life like forgetting a bad dream. One more example I want to give. Suppose one day if your foot falls in cow dung, people will laugh for a moment but you and your family will try to clean and help you in washing. They will not suggest you cutting that leg, now it has cow dung, it is of no use now. So they may get shocked, and angry for this, but ultimately have sympathy for you that you are the victim. Again my advice is to try to forget it like a bad dream, make yourself understand that no colleague knows your past. Follow the last three lines of my advice. If you still feel a problem like a flashback, avoidance to some situation, hyperarousal, sleep disturbance, maybe you can take some medicine for a short time. Still not feeling well, you can go for counseling, CBT (cognitive behavior therapy).