How to deal with a heartbreak and move forward?

Question

Hello doctor,

For the past four years, I have been in a relationship with a boy who is now getting married to someone else. This situation has left me feeling deeply uncomfortable, especially because we had a happy relationship throughout these four years. Adding to my distress, he lives right across from my house, and our families are on friendly terms, often discussing wedding plans with my mom and occasionally with me. I am struggling to cope with this pain and find myself constantly in tears. I am unsure about how to navigate this situation. Could you please offer some suggestions to help me move forward and heal? Kindly help.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

Thank you for your query.

I can understand your concern.

First of all, I would like to mention that sometimes you do not have control over the situations and also with what others do but what matters is how you cope with it. I know it is easier said than done but you have to move on. Some simple steps that can be of help are:

Do meditation daily for at least half an hour in the morning which will help you relax and focus.
Spend quality time with family or close friends and share your feelings as sharing helps a lot. If that is not feasible, then maintain a stress diary and daily log down your thoughts uncensored and never read them again.
Follow a flexible routine exercise regularly and take a balanced diet rich in antioxidants and omega fatty acids. Doing aerobic exercises for at least half an hour thrice a week has been found to be especially helpful.
Focus on your life goals while at the same time spending at least one hour daily for your hobbies to vent out your daily stress.
Remember every problem has a solution. It is just that you just need to try solving it and remember that help is just a step away.

I hope it clears up your worry. If you have any further questions or concerns, please feel free to ask.

Thank you.