Dr. Aditya Gupta
Psychiatry
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I am a 27-year-old, 4 feet and 9 inches tall, and weigh 88.1 pounds. I am an unemployed MBBS doctor. I completed my MBBS in another country and am constantly failing medical clearance in my country. I used to have a lot of disputes with my fiancé because of his previous relationship, and every time that woman's picture came to mind because she was my classmate, I used to detest her and began bashing him. I find it difficult to focus on work, and despite my best attempts, I am unable to keep her out of my head. The conflicts have left both of us unhappy since he cannot alter his history and I am unable to change my viewpoint.I love him so much that I cannot leave him, the insecurity of loving other women in the past worries me. There is also family pressure of passing an exam and doing a job. But I cannot accomplish anything for some reason. These things have been happening to me for the past four years. When we first started dating, he had been in a seven-year relationship with her, and the initial six months were wonderful, then he began talking about her in his conversations, and one day he thanked me for embracing his history and everything. I requested him not to mention her again, and he did not, but then things started to happen in my head, out of jealousy of loving that man who loved another woman. She was the one who broke up with him because she was of a different faith. I am in a mess. I try to keep things normal, but it does not work. I cannot focus on my work or my studies and it is a long-distance relationship and there is a lot of pressure from my family side as everyone insults me by saying, being a doctor you are not earning a penny, doing nothing. I have been taking Dexorange and B Complex tablets on my own since I am anemic and cannot eat properly.
Please help.
Hello,
Welcome to icliniq.com.
First and foremost, I would like to emphasize that it is irrelevant what others think of you. Sometimes you have no control over events or what people do, but you can choose how to deal with them. Certain steps that might be helpful to you include: employing a flexible routine, exercising regularly, and consuming a well-balanced diet high in antioxidants and omega fatty acids. Practicing aerobic workouts for at least half an hour three times per week has been proven to be particularly beneficial. Meditation for at least 30 minutes in the morning helps you relax and focus. Keep a notebook and write down your thoughts unedited every day. If they are still relevant today, review them and try to alter the flawed ones. Study in half-hour increments, followed by a five-minute break. Share your feelings with family, close friends, or your fiance, since sharing is beneficial. If none of these strategies work, see a psychiatrist in person for a thorough examination and, if necessary, therapy.
I hope this helps.
Thank you.
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