Everyone feels insecure sometimes, but feeling insecure all the time due to childhood trauma, failures, rejections, loneliness, social anxiety, or negative thoughts, you need treatment. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is helpful for such people.
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My boyfriend has mental breakdowns every two months. Why?
Query: Hello doctor, My partner has mental breakdowns consistently every two months. He is very insecure and fragile, cannot bear critics, and aggressively reacts to it. He is impulsive, has suicidal thoughts, has extremely low self-esteem, and always thinks people are talking about him. Somehow the conver... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. Thank you for taking help from a psychiatrist. Your friend may have a borderline personality disorder. He may have a chronic feeling of emptiness, emotional outbursts, self-harming, and overwhelming behavior. He mostly feels that no one understands him in this world.... Read Full »
Query: Hello doctor, My problem is that whenever I talk to anyone I lose my focus suddenly in between the conversation and become insecure. I am unable to focus and always get distracted while talking to people. Kindly help. Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. Thank you for your query. I understand your concern. You are suffering from social anxiety. You need to be confident. Start talking with yourself by making your eye to eye contact and looking into the mirror. Read good books, write a journal or your thoughts that wi... Read Full »
I am undergoing bariatric surgery, as I weigh 103 kg, but I feel insecure and lonely. Please help.
Query: Hello doctor, I am presently in the first year of my college. When I was studying in school three years ago, I was overweight, and I started to exercise and diet. I managed to lose 20 kg, and I was in shape. But after two years, I had dengue and did not do the proper treatment as my brother had a se... Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. I thoroughly read your query and understand your concern. Due to ongoing stress, you gained weight again, and this is causing you to feel bad. Due to these thoughts, you are feeling insecure. This is the reason for mild depression. Since you are in a relationship for quit... Read Full »
Why am I not able to prepare my mind to marry someone who I do not know personally?
Query: Hello doctor, I am 25 years old. I have never dated a guy before, because of my family constraints. I had a few mild crushes but never thought of approaching anyone. I have always thought of arranged marriage. But now, when my parents are asking me to meet families and boys for marriage, I do not kn... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. I have gone through your query and understand your concerns. Can I ask you a question? Do you have control over your concerns that you would go into the future and see if your marriage is successful or not? I would say no. So, do not worry. You do not have to worry ... Read Full »
My boyfriend is insecure and possessive. How do I deal with it?
Query: Hello doctor, How to deal with my jealous boyfriend? He is always the first one to start an argument. He is so insecure that the last time we were having lunch, he told me he wanted to leave because I glanced at a guy. He then thought I was trying to flirt with him. Honestly, I did not took a glance... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. If he is not letting you look at another guy, that too an accidental look, then that is very wrong. He is saying he might leave you if you repeat this. This is not a good thing. The first thing you should do is to become more assertive and tell him sternly that trust ... Read Full »
I am obsessed and keep pondering about my husband's past love affair. Please help.
Query: Hello doctor, My husband and I had a love marriage. My husband had an affair six months ago, but the affair is no more. An enemy of my husband reminded me of his past and I am now obsessed with the betrayal and keep on pondering about the past affair. I am afraid that he still is in a secret love a... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. This is more related to insecurity and a matter of trust. There is no medication that can help to gain the trust of your husband. Avoid all the negative thoughts and love your husband and enjoy your marriage life. Your duty is to love and trust your husband. I suggest ... Read Full »
How to handle a possessive spouse?
Query: Hello doctor, I am newly married. My husband is 26 years old and I am six months younger to him. My family members say that my husband is over-possessive and controlling. How can I know if my husband is over-possessive and controlling? Read Full »
Answer: Hi, Welcome to icliniq.com. Most of the persons who are over-possessive of their partner show certain kinds of behavior that is uncommon in the general population. They feel less secure and this sense of insecurity is the driving force for the over-possessive nature. Someone who is insecure may d... Read Full »
What is the management of social phobia, insecurity, anger, and loneliness?
Query: Hello doctor, My 26 years old son has social phobia, insecurity, anger, adamancy, irritation, unsatisfaction, doubts, and loneliness. Symptoms are present for many years but for the last two years, it has aggravated a lot. He does not leave the house or meet people, never speaks and blames me for e... Read Full »
Answer: Hello, Welcome to icliniq.com. The problems you have mentioned like blaming you for his faults, not listening to others, irritability, anger outbursts, suspiciousness, remaining alone, etc., could be occurring due to some underlying mood disturbance. Suspiciousness could be due to some psychotic p... Read Full »