How can I improve and maintain a healthy sexual life?
Patient's Query
Hello doctor,
I got married one year ago. And we have sex occasionally, like maybe once in a month that too once my husband obtains an erection. It is always me who gets upset and fight when he comes close. We are newly married, and I hardly experienced a healthy sexual life.
Kindly help.
Hi,
Welcome to icliniq.com.
I can understand your concern.
If he is not regular in sex, then there is a need for evaluation. Having sex once or twice a month is not sufficient. If his erections are poor, try to talk with him and find out if anything is bothering him. Also, get his serum testosterone levels done to rule out any hormonal abnormality. In most individuals, psychological reasons are responsible for poor libido.
- Does he get good erections?
- Do you both enjoy intercourse?
I hope this information will help you.
Thanks.
Patient's Query
Hello doctor,
Thanks for the reply.
I do not enjoy intercourse; instead, I am dissatisfied. He gets an erection, but he is not driving for the next after one episode, and he is always tired. He will not talk about it for a month until I get upset. He always insists me to come up front, but he is not giving me those comfort vibes. He does not have sex at night, and he does not openly share with me about masturbation or erection. I am a health care professional, and I always tell him sexual life is also important. Maybe he must be thinking I am a pervert.
Kindly help.
Hello,
Welcome back to icliniq.com.
Yes, sexual life is very important for a healthy and happy married life. If either of the partners is not satisfied with sexual life, then there is a need for evaluation to find a reason. In most couples, the reason for such kinds of problems are psychological and not due to organic or physical issues. If he is having issues in erection, then these issues should be found and should be resolved.
If his erection is adequate and he has some hesitation in intercourse, this can be minimized by spending more time in foreplay. Suppose he is not asking you for intercourse, then you can take the initiative for sex for some time. Ask him every day or alternate day for sex. If he is not ready, then both of you can engage in non-penetrative sexual intercourse. You can watch some erotic movie with him, and that will burn hesitation between you.
If that does not work, make him agree to take drugs like Sildenafil or Tadalafil, which will make him more excited and try to engage more in sex.
Take care.
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