I have discomfort while trying to insert a finger in my vagina. Is it due to the fear of sexual activity?

Question

Hello doctor,

I was wondering if I can speak to someone about pain during insertion. I have never been able to insert a tampon, and I experience discomfort and a blockage when I try to insert a finger. It is most likely related to a psychological and irrational fear of sexual activity and also stresses. I am afraid to ask my doctor about this, and plus, with the pandemic, I cannot see a doctor except for emergencies, and I like to know if there are home solutions.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your anxiety. Many people do have this issue, but with slow and persistent efforts, you can overcome it. From your history, I realize you are slightly on the bulkier side. If you could try and reduce your weight (say about 11 lbs in the next two months), you will feel a considerable difference in your sexual interests too. Please take care of your vaginal hygiene too to avoid itching etc. Please get your thyroid and prolactin also tested. Meanwhile, once the pandemic is over, please get a gynecologist to examine you because, at times, a rigid hymen or a septum may be the problem (since you mentioned a blockage). Later if these do not work, we can try vaginal dilators, which are available in the market.

I hope this helps.