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How to control anger issues in a 7-year-old child?

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Published At September 2, 2023
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Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

My son is 7 years old. He gets angry soon. He argues for even small things with his friends. I noticed this habit in him when he was talking with his friends yesterday. He always thinks about himself and seems to be a dominating person. How to make my child a calm and responsible person?

Kindly help.

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern. Some tips can help your son develop calmness and responsibility. It is an important aspect of his emotional and social development. Here are some strategies you can try to address his anger, argumentativeness, and dominance: Lead by example: Children learn a great deal from observing their parents' behavior. Make sure you model calmness, patience, and respectful communication in your interactions with others. This will provide a positive example for your son to follow.

  1. Teach emotional regulation: Help your son understand and manage his emotions. Teach him to identify his feelings and express them in appropriate ways. Encourage him to take deep breaths, count to ten, or engage in other calming techniques when he starts feeling angry or frustrated.
  2. Encourage empathy and perspective-taking: Teach your son to consider other people's feelings and perspectives. Help him understand that everyone has different thoughts, ideas, and preferences, and it is important to listen to others and find common ground. Encourage him to put himself in others' shoes and imagine how they might feel.
  3. Promote problem-solving skills: Teach your son alternative ways to address conflicts and disagreements. Encourage him to think of possible solutions and consider the consequences of his actions. Help him understand the value of compromise and finding win-win situations. Foster good communication skills: Teach your son effective communication techniques such as active listening, using "I" statements to express his feelings, and speaking respectfully. Encourage him to express his thoughts and concerns calmly and constructively, rather than resorting to arguing or dominating others.
  4. Encourage cooperative play and teamwork: Engage your son in activities that promote cooperation and teamwork, such as team sports, group projects, or board games. These activities can help him learn how to work together with others, take turns, and respect different opinions.
  5. Set clear expectations and consequences: Establish clear rules and expectations for behavior, and communicate them to your son. Consistently apply appropriate consequences when he engages in aggressive or dominating behavior. This will help him understand the importance of responsible and respectful conduct.
  6. Encourage self-reflection: Help your son develop self-awareness by reflecting on his behavior. Engage him in discussions about how his actions affect others and what he can do differently next time. Encourage him to take responsibility for his behavior and make amends if necessary.
  7. Seek professional help if needed: If your son's anger and argumentativeness persist or worsen despite your efforts, consider seeking guidance from a child psychologist or counselor. They can provide specialized strategies and support to address any underlying issues.

Remember, change takes time and consistency. Be patient with your son as he learns and grows. Encourage and praise his efforts when you see positive changes in his behavior.

I hope this has helped you. Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Veerabhadrudu Kuncham
Dr. Veerabhadrudu Kuncham

Pediatrics

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