How can I control my stress and high temper?

Question

Hello doctor,

I get frustrated even over very small things. I take too much stress before starting some work, and I think that it will not work, and also my temper is becoming too high. Whenever I get angry, I cannot control myself.

Please help.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I can understand how hard it must be for you to be in this situation.

What you are describing looks like an anxiety disorder. There is nervousness about starting anything new because the mind has negative thoughts that overwhelm you, making you feel it might not work out. Then the mind gets fixated on this pattern of negativity, and you just cannot stop the overthinking, which gives you stress. And long-term stress produces aggression.

What you need is to start psychotherapy. Through counseling, such as psychotherapy or cognitive-behavioral therapy, the therapist helps you identify where these thoughts are coming from and change and control them so they are not produced in the first place.

The second part is anger management, where you learn techniques to control your temper, and, through therapy, you will also be able to identify the source of your anger.

I would need to talk to you in detail to be able to find out why you are having these thoughts after I take a detailed psychiatric history and evaluation. You can find a local therapist, or we can start therapy sessions online via video consultation. If the problem is severe, which we will determine after evaluation, we can decide whether you need medication.

I hope this helps.