Q. How to handle my frustration, negative thoughts and anger?

Answered by
Dr. Ruhi Satija
and medically reviewed by Dr. Vinodhini. J
This is a premium question & answer published on Feb 15, 2020 and last reviewed on: Feb 17, 2020

Hello doctor,

I get frustrated even for very small things. I take too much stress before starting some work and thinking that it will not work and also my temper is becoming too high. Whenever I get angry I cannot control myself. Please help.

Dr. Ruhi Satija



Welcome to icliniq.com.

I can understand it must be really hard for you to be in this situation. What you are describing looks like an anxiety disorder. There is nervousness in starting anything new because the mind has negative thoughts which overwhelm you and make you feel it might not work out, and then the mind gets fixated on this pattern of negativity and you just cannot stop the overthinking which gives you stress. And long term stress produces aggression.

What you need is to start psychotherapy. Via counseling (psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy) the therapist helps you find out where these thoughts are coming from and help you in changing these thoughts in and controlling them so that inside it is not produced in the first place.

Second part is anger management where you learn some techniques to control your temper and also via therapy you will be able to find out the source of your anger.

I would need to talk to you in detail to be able to find out why you are having these thoughts after I take a detailed psychiatry history and evaluation. You can find a local therapist or we can start therapy sessions online via video consultation. If the problem is severe which we will be able to find out after evaluation, we can decide whether or not you need medications.

I hope this helps.

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