Why is my kid always furious, fussy, disobeying, and upset?

Question

Hi doctor,

My kid has strong genes from his father seems to be. He is all-time in displeasure mode. He will not respect my words and will not follow my instructions immediately. He always wants me to entertain him and provide for all his wishes. Even though I am providing him with all his wishes, he will finally listen to his father's commands and neglect my commands and requests. He constantly disturbs me even though I am begging him to leave me alone for 10 minutes. I have to engage him to get my time. But I hate it. Even for outdoor games, he expects other children to follow his rules without saying them. He is expecting everything that needs to be in favor of him all time; otherwise, he turns furious, fussy, and upset mode. How to change?

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern. You are describing a common problem encountered by many parents. Your son has not yet learned to respect boundaries, and your parental authority is not established.

Is his behavior like this only with you? For example, how is he with his father, teachers, and grandparents? You need to take charge, and your son needs tough love to learn to respect you.

Your husband needs to pair up with you, and your son needs to know that parents work together as a team. Speak to your husband about having joint home rules. It is essential to set clear limits for your child’s behavior.

If he misbehaves, stay calm and give them clear instructions to stop misbehaving and try to distract him. Tell your child what the consequences will be if he breaks the rules.

You must follow through on the consequence even if he throws a tantrum. He will finally get the message if you stay strong and follow the rules. It may take a few weeks to bring about behavioral changes, but it is easier to do now than having a troubled teenager. Praise him and give small rewards if he behaves well.

Try to ignore minor problems, but help your child learn to respect boundaries. You cannot be perfect all the time. It can be stressful; talk with your parents and friends for advice and support.

Changing your parenting style can be corrected if the problem is just at home. For example, speak to his teachers if he obeys nursery or school rules. However, if the behavior is problematic everywhere and severe, seek professional support if family input is not enough to change his behavior.

I hope this helps.

Take care.