How can I overcome my emotional problem associated with relationship failure?

Question

Hello doctor,

Okay, maybe I sound crazy admitting this, but there is this ex-best friend I am unable to forget. I find myself looking at his pictures and crying. He was a friend with benefits, so there are those dates I remember. He used to say he loved me, but more than that, he was the only person in my life so important. Now it is about to be five months since we last spoke. I found out that he was lying to me. He had already been in a relationship for a year, but he continued FWB (friends with benefits) with me and lied to me about all this. Now, I feel like I am just stuck, knowing why he did this. I just end up recalling those days which were once special and now feel the worst. Like, what was he doing? And now, he seems amazing with his girlfriend. How do I stop thinking or crying? And why did he do this? He used to show that he cared. I loved him so deeply. Now, I just feel like I should run and stop myself from literally destroying myself for this man. And you know, somehow, I just want it back, maybe. That thing, that happy feeling. I have not been able to trust anyone after this. I have not been able to feel for anyone either. I used to always be online talking to him. Now, I rarely want to talk to anyone.

Kindly help.

Answer 1

Hello,

I am glad you chose icliniq for your medical-related queries.

I can understand your concern regarding your mental health. I would suggest you forget about your past and focus on living in the present to create a better future. Whatever he did to you is in the past. Stop looking at his pictures as it will make it more difficult for you to move on. Instead, make new friends and keep yourself engaged in outdoor activities. Try incorporating some light exercises to improve your mood. Interact with your family members as well. If you still feel unable to move on, I suggest considering antidepressants like Escitalopram for early recovery. Consult your specialist doctor, discuss with them, and take the medicines with their consent. Do not worry, these feelings are temporary and will improve with time.

I hope this has helped you. Thank you.