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What are the ways to reduce a painful and stressful penetration during sex?

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Published At July 7, 2022
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Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I am facing a problem with penetration. It is very painful and stressful and it is causing a lot of frustration.

Kindly help.

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern and would be happy to help. If you have started sexual activity recently, this will be normal and take time. With time, your pelvic muscles will be relaxed, and there shall be no pain. If you have tried multiple times and still penetrative sex is difficult, I suggest you get evaluated. A gynecologist's opinion should rule out any anatomical cause. There can be an infection in the vaginal canal. Poor lubrication is another cause. I suggest you use a lubricant like Ky Jelly during sex to aid in smooth penetration. Are you able to insert one or two fingers?

Vaginal muscles, including pelvic muscles, cause resistance during penetration and do not let it happen. Try to remain relaxed during sex. Spend more time in foreplay, and you will be fine. Kegel's exercise can also help.

I hope you found this helpful.

Thank you.

Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

Thank you for the response.

I also do not get aroused or wet, even though I feel I will, making it even more difficult. I am very stressed.

Kindly advise.

Hello,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

It is normal if you do not have sex regularly. I suggest you spend more time in foreplay, and you will notice an improvement in arousal. You and your partner can watch an adult movie to help improve your sexual experience.

I hope this helps.

Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Seikhoo Bishnui
Dr. Seikhoo Bishnui

Psychiatry

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