What are the ways to control emotions?

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First of all, I appreciate you for your strength to be able to recognize your own nonhelpful thoughts and behavior. It takes a lot of courage. Self-victimization often is seen with people who have had a childhood in a nonnurturing or dysfunctional family. It can also be a part of a personality disorder, what you can do is find a therapist, a counselor and start taking sessions so you can work on your impulsivity and the therapist will further help you recognize your subconscious thought patterns leading you to behave and feel this way.

You can find a counselor in your city or there are many online sites providing the facility. If you cannot do that either, start with journaling, keep a mood journal and start writing what happened and what made you feel bad or when you reacted in a wrong way, what went through your mind. If you do this regularly, you will be able to recognize patterns in your behavior and situation which is your triggers, which you can avoid.

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Yes, you can try various relaxation techniques and deep breathing techniques to reduce stress and the negative feeling. Check out box breathing technique, progressive muscle relaxation. Also, you can try bullet journaling if conventional journaling did not benefit you. And yes every problem has a solution, and you will get better, it is only a matter of time and patience.