How can people move on from someone they loved?

Question

Hello doctor,

I love someone deeply, and I begged him to be friends, but as I had expressed my feelings so overly, so he escaped. I still wish to be friends with him I do not want to hope anything more than a friend. At first, he welcomingly agreed to be friends, but I cut my promise and talked about my feelings again, so he escaped and did not accept me even as a friend still.

I do not know what to do to make him trust me again and to believe that I have taught my hard lesson and I have paid a great deal so I would not talk about my feelings again. Please help me and show me a way. Because I cannot put him off my mind despite that, I only want him to allow me to talk with him, ask about his health, and his life at least once a month.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand what you are going through right now. If you will take my opinion, then it is in your best interest your that person does not remain a friend to you. Our mind plays weired things. When you are a friend with him, then your mind will start expecting something out of this friendship, even when you do not want. Your mind will remain confused and will surely break the promise of talking about the feelings, then he will give the same answer, and you will get hurt most in this process of confusion and expectations.

It will be hard for you initially to accept and get adjusted with the situation but believe me once you get adjusted and moves on, then you will not regret this decision of not being friends with him. This friendship will give you more pain than comfort.