How can I cope with emotional detachment in marriage?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am a 36-year-old woman who has been married for 13 years, and I find myself feeling disturbed and easily hurt, especially during small talks with my husband. Over the past 10 years of my marriage, I have had a very difficult experience with him. Although he is making efforts to change, I am emotionally unable to move past the negative experiences.

Despite my attempts to be happy with him, I cannot forget the past, and it continues to haunt me. I feel emotionally detached from him, like I am emotionally dead in our relationship. I am concerned about our two children and do not want them to suffer due to our relationship issues. Please help.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I read your query and understand your concerns.

Over the course of your 13-year marriage, you have been dealing with emotional distress within your relationship. The persistent hurt feelings, particularly triggered by interactions with your husband and the lasting impact of past negative experiences, have created significant challenges. Despite your husband's efforts to change, you currently find it challenging to re-establish an emotional connection. This emotional distance is understandably affecting your well-being, and you are rightfully concerned about the potential consequences for your children.

It is commendable that you are actively seeking support to address both your emotional needs and the dynamics of your marriage. This proactive approach is important for the well-being of both individuals and the relationship as a whole. Remember, healing and rebuilding a relationship takes time and dedicated effort. Be patient with yourself and your husband, celebrate small wins, and prioritize seeking professional support when needed.

I hope this helps you.

Thank you.

Regards.