Why do I feel scared and nervous to indulge in sex with my husband?

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I have read the query, and I can understand your concern.

Your condition is because of low libido. To increase your sex drive when you have a low libido, improve and support your health. Why might you have a lower desire for sex than you used to? Your sex drive, also called libido, is affected by many other areas of your health and life. When looking for a way to boost your libido, it helps to understand what could be affecting it. Your mood plays a significant role in your ability to get “in the mood,” so your mental health is an excellent place to start. Anxiety and depression cause low libido. Pain during sex is ten times more common in women who have been diagnosed with anxiety. Even without a diagnosis like anxiety or depression, consistently feeling stressed can affect your libido. A stressful job, financial struggles, and other stressors could leave you feeling run down and lacking desire. Age-related hormonal changes are normal but might cause a progressive decrease in libido. Research shows that by the age of 60, many people will experience changes in their sex drive. Chronic health conditions common in aging, such as heart disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disorder (COPD), and diabetes, increase the loss of normal sexual desire and affect sexual satisfaction. After 30, testosterone levels start to lower in men. Decreased testosterone can reduce libido and potentially affect erectile function. Women between 40 and 50 years reach menopause, the natural end of a woman’s menstrual cycle. After menopause, estrogen hormone levels drop, causing changes in women’s health, sexual interest, and sexual function. Some of the changes caused by menopause, like vaginal dryness, affect how sex feels. Lubricants may help increase comfort and pleasure if you experience dryness or pain. Believe it or not, sitting at a desk all day with minimal exercise could be affecting your sex life. There is a link between obesity, a sedentary lifestyle, and lower sex drive in men and women. Both physical activity and obesity can impact confidence and body image, adding to lower libido. Medical conditions, like heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure, can affect the blood flow to genital areas, leading to sexual problems. Prostate cancer has a significant impact on a man’s sex life. The prostate is essential to the health of a man’s sexual function, and erectile dysfunction is a common side effect of prostate cancer treatment. Women’s sexual interest can be affected by a disorder called hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). This condition is the loss of desire for sexual activity and sexual fantasies. Low sex drive is a common side effect of many medications. Some antidepressants, birth control pills, blood pressure medications, and antiepileptics could all impact your libido. The trust and intimacy that you have with your sex partner can affect your desire. Perceived problems in a relationship can change the amount of enjoyment felt and decrease your overall desire for sex. Even if there are no perceived problems, changes in sexual desire and sexual frequency are common in long-term relationships.

Low libido is usually a complex problem. Adopting healthy lifestyle changes in multiple areas of your health and well-being helps boost libido. Whether you are wondering how to increase male libido or how to increase sex drive in women, the following tips can help:

1. Participating in regular exercise and finding ways to move more throughout the day could boost your interest in sexual activity. Research shows a link between fitness, body image, and sexual function in men and women.

2. For women, exercises and physical therapy to strengthen the muscles around the pelvis, also called the pelvic floor, could help boost satisfaction, sexual activity, and confidence during intercourse.

3. Experiencing high stress levels always impacts your health and sex life in many ways. However, there are many stress management techniques and lifestyle changes you can try to help cope with stress and boost your mental health. Some of these may also help increase your sex drive:

4. Practice mindfulness and meditation.

5. Do some stretching or yoga.

6. Try deep breathing.

7. Go for a walk or workout.

8. Talk to family, friends, or a therapist.

9. Set aside time for hobbies.

10. Improve communication and connection.

11. Focusing on intimacy in your relationship could increase desire. Planning date nights, communicating, and spending quality time together outside of the bedroom can help improve your relationship in the bedroom, too.

12. As uncomfortable as it may be, try talking with your partner about changes in your sex drive. Low libido is common, but it does not need to create a barrier in your relationship. Communication and trust are essential for building intimacy and having better sex.

13. If you and your significant other are struggling to connect, consider talking with a sex therapist for a safe space to discuss sexual problems. Therapy can help to rebuild connection and sexual interest, leading to a better sex life.

14. Good quality sleep affects mood, mental health, and energy levels. One study showed sleep quality and consistently getting adequate sleep were related to increased sexual desire in women. Also, go to sleep and wake up at consistent times, and limit caffeine intake in the afternoons and evenings. Ideally, keep your bedroom dark and cool when you sleep. Exercise regularly, but not close to when you go to bed, and eat a nutritious diet. Your overall health affects your sex drive. Following a healthy diet helps maintain your health and could prevent some diseases.

15. Consuming a diet of vegetables, fruits, whole grains, healthy fats, and lean proteins can help you maintain your health. These health improvements can include improving blood flow and preventing chronic conditions like heart disease and high blood pressure.

16. You can take the tablet Sildenafil 25 mg one hour before sex to improve your sex drive. Consult a specialist doctor, talk to them, and then take the medication.

I hope this will help you.

Thank you.