I am unable to penetrate during sex. Please help.

Question

Hello doctor,

I am a 32-year-old male. My height is 5'10" and I weigh 82 kg. I got married two years back. We both are working professionals and love each other a lot. Since our marriage, we are trying to have intercourse but unable to. We are wanting to have a baby now, but are really worried about the situation. Also, we tried penetration a lot of times but the moment I come close to her I lose the erection. I am very uncomfortable with my foreskin rolled down and she is very uncomfortable when I touch her vagina as the sense of pain takes down the momentum and she feels stressed. She also feels dryness at her vagina. As we both are working hence at the end of the day we feel tired and have less sexual desire. You are requested to help us in our healthy sexual life and family planning too.

Answer 1

Hello,

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As you have explained, you never achieved intercourse? You both have fear about sex and you have fear for rolling of your foreskin and she also feels pain and uncomfortable. You both need therapy. You want to plan a baby but first, you achieve a successful intercourse, it is important. You have to do a simple exercise like try to uncover your foreskin when you urinate. Does that hurt? During masturbation try to uncover. And for your partner, you should visit a gynecologist for dryness of the vagina. There is vaginal cream that contains estrogen that will be helpful in dryness problem. If she has a fear that intercourse will be painful than there is vaginal dilator that will give her relief. In starting, you should enjoy foreplay. Forget about intercourse. When you both are at peak, then start sex but if you became already preoccupied with that thought that we cannot do then you cannot proceed further. The main problem is that you both are very sensitive and do not want to hurt each other but start playing with each other's genital part that will replace your hesitation to pleasure.