My penis is not erecting during sex but I masturbate thrice a day. Please advise.

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It seems from your question that you might be having a psychological difficulty in performing a sexual act with your partner, as you do not have any difficulty in masturbation which you can do three to four times a day.

Masturbation is not harmful, however at the rate you masturbate, it might affect your sexual performance. As after each sexual act (either coitus or masturbation), there is a recovery phase during which the body reconciles back to its normal state and prepares itself for the next session. This recovery phase can vary from person to person, but on an average can be between 30 to 60 minutes.

As mentioned by you, you have difficulty in having sex with your partner, as a result of which you do not get the sexual gratification hence resulting in preoccupation with sexual thoughts.

I would advise you to calm yourself, let your body relax and rejuvenate. Do not force yourself into sex without any feelings for it, gradually you will regain your sexual strength and stamina. Eat clean, refrain yourself from using any kind of drug to increase your erection as these will result in rebound in the form of result erections.

For papules/nodules in and around your genitals, you should seek a consultation from a venereologist and seek proper treatment for the same.

For penile length, until you are able to penetrate and can have penetrative sex with your partner, you need not be worried about its size.

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Hello, Akshad, As such there is no medication which can be taken to reduce certain behaviours like masturbation. However as per your description, it seems that your masturbation behaviour is a mainly to negate the loss of a relationship. However this displacement of feelings won’t help you. Hence you need to face and accept the loss, so that you can accommodate to it & can move ahead in your life. Once you’ll accept the change than it won’t be an issue for you. Hope you will understand and comply with the fact. Besides even after this, your sexual issues persist, don’t hesitate to consult. Thank you