Extreme stress, depression from relationship. Coping?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am suffering from extreme stress and depression. I had a relationship for six years which was extremely deep, and it broke all of a sudden, and it leads to extreme depression and suicide attempts. After two years, I got recovered and then I started another relationship in which I was very happy. But I was still afraid to love again. I was doubtful whether this guy too will cheat me or I may lose him. I was very happy with him, but now he is always fighting with me and makes reasons for the fight. This literally kills my mental health. I cry a lot and it literally breaks me. So I cannot even talk well to my parents. We are in a long-distance relationship and I love him very much and miss him a lot. As I cannot bear this distance, I cannot tolerate this sadness when he fights. Now I am worried whether he too will leave me. Besides this, another reason for my stress is unemployment. So how can I deal with this?

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I can imagine how difficult it might be. You are having adjustment issues, trust issues on the surface. Secondly, there also might be cognitive distortions that are making you feel vulnerable and having frequent fights. There also might be self-esteem issues that are making you continue the relationships which you are not comfortable in.

I would suggest you start counseling therapy session. It is important that you spend some time understanding yourself. To be a part of a happy relationship, first, you have to be happy with yourself.

I hope this helps.