I am stressed with my inability and erection problem. Please help.

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It can be considered as selective anoragasmia. Here the more important part that only with your wife you do not have feelings for intimation during intercourse or difficulty in sustaining erections, while you have good erections while watching porn and masturbation. I would like to know the status of the relationship between you and your wife since courtship or before that. Was this marriage according to your wish. How were your interactions during courtship? Do you have any kind of sex chat that time? What kind of personality has your wife? Do you have any feelings of sex with your wife since marriage? Do you feel any distractions during intercourse? How much time do you take to ejaculate during masturbation? Is there any anxiety issues with you like work related stress or any other? Do you feel depressed since long? Before going into the proper treatment, I need answers to these questions because in such conditions the most common cause is the strained relationship between spouse. The other causes are issues related to privacy, home situation and conditions, etc. Also, if there is no feeling to do sex, then it could be because of anxiety and depressive features since long. First, I would like to exclude these conditions so that I will be able to guide you properly. You also mentioned here that you can get erections while masturbation but you have not mentioned about ejaculation. If these problems are not there, then it will be very easy to treat you otherwise, we have more work upon your relationship issues. Please provide me with all answers, so I will be able to help you in a more coordinated way. Thank you.

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Thanks for giving me all answers, which I was seeking for proper treatment. It seems that you have poor interaction regarding sexual talks with your wife. As you have mentioned here that your wife seems too conservative on these issues it also aids loss of erection during intercourse. I would like to give you some tips to improve this problem. The most important is sensate focusing techniques (set of sexual exercise for couples). For this, we need marital unit instead of you alone. This particular method requires your wife with you for the session, and then male and female psychiatrist both will tell you to use these techniques separately and together. I would like to advise you to indulge more and more in foreplay with your wife and make senses on some specific areas. I think you know all about foreplay. Indulge more and more foreplay in keeping you sexually active. Keep talking to your partner, and it may include sex chat too. You may watch some erotic movies with her. Regarding medicines, I suggest you tablet Tadalafil 10 mg once in a week at least 4 hours before intercourse. This will act for seven days. If Tadalafil did not work for seven days, then you can also take this tablet as on alternate day basis. It will help you. Consult your specialist doctor, discuss with him or her and take medicine with consent.

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It seems that you indulge in foreplay just for the sake of getting or maintaining the erection. A sexual act is an art, so do not rush things. Enjoy sexual act. Never thought of maintaining the erection or do not go for intercourse just for the sake of erection. Always go and remain slow while in foreplay. Your partner should be more active in your case. She should initiate all activities even sexual movements, and your wife should not make any negative remark during intercourse also. You can procure the medicine with the help of your general practitioner. Thank you.