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How to treat aggressive behavior and stop being harsh on myself?

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Published At May 26, 2023
Reviewed AtDecember 12, 2023

Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I am an 18-year-old female and for the past few months, I have been very aggressive toward people I love, and super hard on myself. Three months back I went through some really tough family issues (I am an only child) and I could not see my parents for a month. I find myself getting super upset often and feeling like I am at fault for anything that happens. For instance, my car battery died before school last week and I needed my boyfriend's help I felt so upset and stressed and blamed it on myself. I get so upset in small unimportant situations that I often feel like hitting myself. Also when my family does not understand what I am saying I get super upset with them and later on get mad at myself for it, it feels uncontrollable. I am so confused. This has only been happening for the last three months. If I go to a psychiatrist they will tell me I am being dramatic. But I think it is more than that.


Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand what you are feeling right now. Increased anger outbursts, irritability, and self-harm behavior is the indication of some psychiatric problems. Anger outbursts express in the form of aggressive behavior to mostly our loved ones because our mind knows that it is easy to get angry at them rather than strangers. At times guilt and anger also provoke self-harm behavior. It can happen in a number of psychiatric illnesses like depression, bipolar disorder, etc so there is a need for evaluation of your other day-to-day activities, mood, thoughts, and other behavior changes. You need a psychiatric consultation online or offline. Do not worry no psychiatrist judges their patients. They understand people and their situation better than common people.

Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Vandana Patidar
Dr. Vandana Patidar


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