I do not get erection problem during masturbation, but why during actual sex?

Hi,

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I read your query and understand your concerns.

It is your thought, which is creating the problem. For a man of 32 years with regular masturbation for the last 9 years, it is easy to understand that there is no problem with erection. It is the guilty feeling associated with masturbation that is creating the problem. In other words, it can be said that the problem is a psychological one. This is common in men who think masturbation is wrong. At this stage, I would like to advise you a few things:

1. First, stop thinking that masturbation is a problem or it leads to an erection problem. I would like to inform you that masturbating is completely normal and there is no point in being ashamed about it.
2. One can masturbate 2 to 3 times a week and not more than that. Because it might lead to addiction.
3. Marriage is not about sex or procreation, it has many things which should be considered. Develop intimacy with your future partner before having sex.
4. While engaging in sex, devote at least 20 to 30 minutes for foreplay. Without that, you will never know the true value of intimacy and giving sexual pleasure.
5. Stop thinking that you have a problem. It is absolutely normal not to have an erection on one or two occasions. Failure does happen in life and sex is no exception. Accept it and move on.