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How to solve my sister's behavior issue?


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Published At November 7, 2016
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Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

My sister, who is 21, never obeys my mom and dad. Neither, she will do any work if not pointed at. My parents are frustrated and always scream and shout at her. Even then, she does not do any work. I do not live with my parents, but whenever I visit them it is always like an invasion of me in an ongoing civil war. I am the moderator trying to calm things. Please give a solution. She will not listen to me neither to my parents. But, my parents would listen to your advice. Please help.

Answered by Dr. Sonia Malhotra


Welcome to icliniq.com.

Although your sister is too old and mature now, there are certain things your parents can try with her. These tips work well in modifying behavior of children, how I wish she was younger. Whenever she does something, she should be praised beyond what is needed. Although, it may appear odd, but it will make her feel loved and her chances of repeating the good behavior will increase. If she does not follow a certain instruction, she should not be pestered and she should be ignored. Banging head with her and fighting with her will only make her more stubborn. Howsoever bad your sister might be, her defiance and stubbornness are signs of her inner feeling of not being loved and cared for enough. Tell your parents to stop criticizing and only praising her about her good qualities all the time. This will rebuild the trust in their relationship. Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Sonia Malhotra
Dr. Sonia Malhotra


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