What causes anger outbursts and impatience in an otherwise healthy female?

Question

Hi doctor,

I am a 21-year-old female. I used to be very calm and patient generally. About four years back I was in a toxic relationship. I got out of that relationship and now I am committed to a guy who is very calm and patient. But nowadays I have become very impatient and I also get angry suddenly. I feel like my mind is out of control and I do not know how to deal with myself.

Please help.

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

Thank you for your query. I can understand your concern.

You may have major depressive disorder due to chronic stress from your past relationship. There is non-pharmacological management for depression. I suggest you try the below guidelines to deal with it.

You should do exercises daily for 30 to 45 minutes like at least going for a walk. It will divert your anger outburst.
You should do meditation for 20 minutes daily. Just sit in one place in a comfortable position and try to concentrate on your normal breathing. Do not stop or force yourself to stop your thoughts, just let it be. It will calm and reduce anger outbursts.
You should eat healthy home-cooked foods, and avoid junk foods.
You must drink enough water.
You should spend quality time with friends and family daily or do video calls if you are living away from your family.
You should spend time on creative hobbies like reading good books, writing journals, painting, drawing, and learning new skills, language, or musical instruments.
You should have seven to eight hours of sleep daily.
You must avoid tobacco, alcohol, or any substance abuse.
Live your life, do not just spend it. Be bold and confident.

If you still have symptoms that persist after following the advice for four to six weeks, then you need to start medications for a short duration.

Thank you.