Dr. Ramchandra Lamba
Psychiatry
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Patient's Query
Hi doctor,
My wife is indifferent to child health issues. She controls the child with threatening words. The child cannot cry or weep even with an extreme reprimand by her. She makes the child sleep under extreme pressure. Sometimes, the child wets the bed. She then becomes furious with him. All this has led him to be a withdrawn child and always compromising. Please suggest me.
Hi,
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Too harshly treated or neglected child care can lead to psychological and developmental issue in the child, which includes depression, conduct disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, social withdrawal, academic underachievement, and aggressive behavior. So, you need to explain these things to your wife, and with the help of yourself/a psychiatrist/psychologist, she may be able to change her behavior. She can also be relieved from the stress that she is feeling now. To reduce the demand for the care, other facilities such as day care or housekeeping can be made use of. Provide the emotional support she needs. Encourage her to take training for planning and to meet the needs of children. Also, resolve the issue any psychological problems she is suffering with the help of a psychiatrist through in-person consultation. Hope this helps you decide further course of action.
Patient's Query
Thank you, doctor,
Explaining anything in the best environment is calling for a huge verbal or silent reaction. It is nearly impossible. I had attempted many in-person visits to psychiatrists pretending to be my problem. However, she is so good to the external world that I fail to convey anything. I even visited a top institute thrice, but I was unable to continue. She has no work pressure and is very good and smart in all types of work. But everyday morning, one to two hours in her daily routine work, she is full of anxiety as if she is running with the clock and any small deviation will call her wrath. She must do some cloth washing daily in that routine. She will insult if someone differs from her point of view or if anything goes against her wish. The entire family runs around to please her. But after analyzing it in many ways, I believe it is a different issue. My concern is my child. I have learned to cope with her but my child is accumulating various irreversible psychological issues. Please guide me further.
Hello,
Welcome back to icliniq.com.
First of all, explaining is almost impossible, but still, you can tell her that even though she is a very sensitive person I respect that and am willing to discuss and sort out the problem.
In my view, you should continue the treatment with a psychiatrist so that you both learn to cope with it. Probably, she is under work pressure in the morning, like preparing the child for school, making his tiffin and bag, and she seems to be running late. Here, in the morning, you can help her to decrease her anxiety by helping her send the child to school or helping in the kitchen or anything she does. Probably this morning routine stresses her a little bit, and she seems to be unable to cope with it.
Maybe, she feels insulted if someone differs from her. She needs to know that different opinions can occur, and it should not be taken as a personal insult. The child can be helped by you and your family's parent if they are with you. You try to take care of the child as much as possible. And take help from parents. Once the child is able to learn that father and grandparents are there to help him, he will be more comfortable. Also, keep trying to explain the situation to your partner. I recommend you continue the counseling treatment.
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